If you have discovered that someone in your family has developed a gambling addiction then you are probably feeling that you do not know which way to turn. You are probably blaming yourself for not spotting the signs earlier and having sleepless nights worrying about whilst the gambler seems not to be worrying as much as you.
The compulsive gambler is selfish and whilst he/she is in the early stages of recovery they may show little or no regard for the family. They have been living a selfish life not worrying about the damage they have caused so why would they automatically gain a conscience over night. They need to be selfish and focus on their recovery but as a family so do you.
It is important that during the very early stages of recovery you consider your own personal well-being. Try not to make the gambling the only thing in your world. It's really important that you do not let it consume you so try not to become too isolated from family and friends. Whilst you may not want to share everything with everybody, do talk to people you feel you can trust. It's surprising what comes out of the woodwork when you start to talk as you soon realise all families have problems. Their's may not be gambling related but they may also be going through their own set of problems.
Look for opportunities for normality - simple things like a day out, going out for a meal with friends or trying to get away for a few days. Try not to keep questioning the compulsive gambler and trying to catch them out by being one step ahead. This will only add to your own stresses and anxieties. Make sure you put as many barriers in place; take things one day at a time and remember the old saying 'time is the greatest healer'.